Adulting: A Morning Routine?

For the last couple of years, I have struggled with coming up with a routine of any sort, morning or evening. I mean, I always had one before coming to Uni, but that's also because most of my younger years were spent at various boarding schools and having a morning and evening routine wasn't a choice. It was one of those survival things. (Shout out to all my boarding school people and LIKE if you can relate.) You knew exactly when to wake up and shower, what time inspection would be, the time you had to go and eat, classes, sport and so on. It was drilled into you from the first day of classes. #boardingschoolstruggles

I digress, I've been trying to develop a good reason to have a routine, and I honestly struggled to come up with one. Which probably explains why I haven't been able to keep one for the last couple of months. That is until I went home (Zimbabwe) a couple of weeks ago. My parents had a routine, my nana had one, and even my little niece had one, which got me thinking... What is the difference between a person with a morning routine and one without one?

With that experience in mind, I started looking at the definitions of a routine. I watched an unhealthy amount of YouTube videos and listened to podcasts of routines that people swore by. After about a week of this, I stumbled upon something exciting; people didn't have routines because they have all this free time to spend or even had a super tedious, repetitive life that accommodated for the Routine Lifestyle. Most people had pretty unpredictable schedules during the day and some in the evenings as well, which completely threw me off because the excuses I always gave for not having a routine were that I was too busy or things were too unpredictable for me to have one. But now I couldn't have that an excuse.

Needless to say that I learned a lot about the importance of having a routine, and I feel I should share 4 THINGS I LEARNT ABOUT HAVING A MORNING AND EVENING ROUTINE.

1. Establishing a routine reaps long-term benefits.

The first week of my morning routine was the worst. I hated waking up early and having to do all these annoying extra little things. Sometimes all I wanted to do was sleep in and watch Netflix or better yet go through my Instagram feed and insta stalk, but that wasn't an option. The thing that kept me going was that I needed to prove to myself that I could do it, and I'm in week 3, and so far, we are okay. I survived.

When I started, it was work, and I felt like I didn't have time, but now that I've done it, I've realized have the routine has given me more time to focus on the essential things: self-care, meditation, and prayer, goal setting, exercise...etc. These are all things that I will be grateful I did now rather than later on in the future.

A routine negates the act of having to will or motivates yourself to do something. ... That is why relying on routine to accomplish tasks is a lot easier than relying on willpower and motivation. Yes, when establishing a routine, you do have to will and motivate yourself to get stick the routine - somewhere on the World Wide Web

2. Do what works for you.

When coming up with the routine, I learned the hard way that some things work for different people, but that might not necessarily work for me. For example, I am not an evening showered, and who then skips the morning shower thing... naaaaah, it does not work like that for me. Also, the gym every day is a gospel I haven't been given yet... ISSA NOT FAM #prayforme.

That's okay, though; I have to figure things that work for me and my kind of lifestyle and do that.

3. Messing up is not an excuse to stop. It gets easier.

Be sure that I have missed a couple of days in this conquest, and the one mistake I have always made and haven't realized I had been doing was giving up and soon as I made a mistake or forgot to do something. The lesson I learned here is not to be so hard on myself and let myself be human.

No matter how many times you fall, pick yourself up again and try again that day or the next one. One day you will find you have gained your balance and are a boss at that craft. This goes for anything in life, by the way. It will get easier to trust me.

4. Try it for 21 Days.

It takes 21 days for a habit to be formed, so try that and let me know how it goes. Like I said initially, it was and is hard, but it gets more comfortable with time, and before you know it, you will be breezing through things that you couldn't before.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this, and I hope it helps you or at least added some value to what you think a morning or evening routine will add to your life.

Stay blessed...