gooooooooood day gorgeous people. I hope all is well with you, and you are having a marvellous week.
Have you ever sat down and reflected on your life and realized that all the things that you thought were the reasons you were failing are wrong? And you were actually the problem the whole time. Hard pill to swallow but let’s talk.
Story-time: As I'm writing this right now, it's the third week of school, and I can honestly count on my fingers the number of classes I have gone to. Like I can count on one hand how many classes I’ve attended. Now that shouldn't be a problem, but the number of classes I've missed outweighs the number of classes I've actually gone to. And be rest accused I have watched over a dozen YouTube videos on motivation (gaining motivation, staying motivated, ...etc.), focus, time management, planning and all that good stuff. I even have a playlist for all the videos. I can actually recommend some of them. Will link the playlist HERE.
But guys, a couple of months ago, I was giving people a lecture about being focused and knowing what you want. Making time to do the things that get you to the places that you need to get to. I even set goals you guys, told myself I wasn't going to make the same mistakes I did last year that caused me to be in the place that I’m at right now. All of that and now, I’m the same person missing class not because I have essential things to do or an emergency I have to attend to; but because I can't be bothered to get out of bed or it's too cold outside. Girl, get it together.
So, let’s address the elephant in the room ... this week, we need to have a reality check, and it's more for me than it is for anyone else, to be honest. Now for those of you that have been there since the first post I made on this media platform, you would know that I started this platform so that we could help each other. It’s all about transparency and giving each other a kick up the ass when we mess up. So, this week is one of those posts that I have been dreading talking sheer about, mostly out of sheer denial about the whole situation and a little from procrastination. Let’s talk.
Now I'm sure we've all heard the saying,
You can't keep making the same mistakes and expect there to be different results.
What that means to me is that it’s foolish for one to keep complaining about a problem when one keeps using a solution that hasn't been working over and over again. It’s like knowing that when you have ice-cream, your tummy hurts, and you get the runs. So, your solution to the problem is to take a swim after having the ice-cream, but it doesn't work. Then you see a doctor, and they tell you you are lactoseyntolarent, and you continue to have ice-cream and swim to take the symptoms away and expect that the problem will change. NO BOO. IT DOESN'T WORK LIKE THAT! Doing that repeatedly will not change that (I mean, if it does work for someone, please give me a ring; we actually need to talk).
But seriously, a lot of the times, the problems we face are actually stretched out longer than they need to be because we keep making the same mistake over and over again.
In the same way that motivation or time management is not a big issue for me; they are the byproduct of my lack of self-discipline. This is because when you lack motivation or struggle to stay focused, or even feel like you don't have time for all the tasks you want to do, the thing that keeps you going is SELF- DISCIPLINE. Self-disciplined one is defined as "someone who has the ability to control themselves and to make themselves work hard or behave in a particular way without needing anyone else to tell them what to do."
Therefore, reading books about being motivated or watching videos about staying focused will not change or fix that you don't have self - discipline. It’s not something that someone can teach you through a skillshare video or a Tedtalk; it’s something you need to decide to cultivate on your own. Something that isn’t just narrowed down to school or work but affects how you function in all aspects of your life.
Honestly, this week has been a wake-up call for me, and I have decided to do something about it. I’m doing a 21-day Self- Disciple Challenge. I’m doing this because I need to install a level of the disciple in my life. 21 Days of accountability, self-growth, reflection, productivity and consistency on all my platforms (and life in general). I will let you know how I feel as we go along. If you feel you want to take part, feel free to comment or email me.
If this triggered something in you, I would say ask yourself these questions.
What is the problem, and how have I fixed it in the past? Is there another thing I can do about it?
I hope this gives you some food for thought.